Quote: I guess if I'm honest, I had hoped with her out of the picture, he'd be more into me, I guess. And, well, I just don't know. I mean on some levels, yes, he's around more, calls more, etc. I think my problem is my *expectations*, which, I need to get rid of. I try really hard not to have any expectations, but - they do creep in whether I recognize them or not. And, if OW is out of the picture, I need to...well, what do I need to do? That is the question...give him more space? Be more attuned to him? I'm not sure.
I know exactly where you are coming from with this. We are in the EXACT same place. I think OM is out of the picture and less than a week later, I am expecting her to jump on me, ready for anything.
Like you, I recognize that this is just not necessarily how things work and my expectations are tainting my enjoyment of the place we ARE at because I am focused too much on where we are NOT at. Time, time, time, and maybe a little patience (lol). Those are the ingredients for success in my case, and maybe yours. I know our sitches are different in fundamental ways, but we are very similar in our approach.
Just do as OT says and figure out what YOU want, then make peace with that decision and move on.
