You did ok. I know from your perspective it seems like you did great. It's funny, we post here sometimes stuff that for US, knowing our history and usual behavior, seems like a major breakthrough, only to have people come down on us (and I mean that in a constructive way). I think it's those moments, when WE think we did really well but from an outsiders perspective, we still have work to do, that we learn the most from each other. It's why honest posting is so helpful.
I think it's good that you were able to argue and then get past it. Maybe that's something that in the past you would not have done so easily. I also commend you for trying to see the argument from his point of view.
As for what happened, oddly enough, I EVEN THOUGHT there was another guy involved or that SO hit you because somehow my eye went to the "black eye" part and jumped to conclusions. Like WL or Chrissy said (I think), there is enough lies floating around to lie about something like that. I think OT suggests to us that we not try to manage the emotions of others, and I think this includes holding back the truth, especially truth like this, just because you THINK you know how they'll react.
Again, I think overall, while certain parts of what you did could have been handled better (especially don't like the "childish" remarks) this can be a good learning experience and positive in the end.
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P.S. I'm still a little unsure why SO would get mad at YOU for your sister hitting you. Have you always been the one to start these things or something? Does he think you're wrong in what you and your sis fight about?
