Quote: I think it was the perfect opportunity to address the topic directly in terms of what you want -- he brought it up. "SO, no, I'm still confused about what is going on. If you could be direct with me about what is going on with OW and us in your head, that would be helpful."
"Was" was the word - I, too, almost felt like it was the right moment, but, like GH, I didn't feel "I" was ready for that kind of talk yet. Maybe I'm scared of his answer, I don't know. I feel like I'm reeling in a fish that's only nibbling on the bait - the hook isn't actually in....know what I mean? There just hasn't been "enough" from SO to warrant that kind of talk - yet. He knows what I want. I have no doubt about that. If OW is indeed out of the picture...or on her way out....I'm not about to start pushing him, too. I've waited this long, I can wait a bit more.
I look at like this....sometimes it helps keep things in perspective for me...if we're going to be together for 50 years....would I want to spend those 50 years in a mediocre R? Or can I get through 2 years (or so!! LOL) of hell in order to have 48 years of honest, good happiness? Call me the odd duck - but I'll go thru the hell to get to the other side. Thru the fog to get to the sunshine!!
