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Lol, poor powerless NM. I'm not *even* going to say anything.


LOL...NO, I don't see myself as "powerless", quite the opposite, if you can believe it. More it's that I feel "limited"...that's the better term. I was just whining - I'm getting PO'd about my difficulties in finding a job.
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I think YOU think it is because if you make plans for this weekend you think HE will think it is being done on purpose to screw him out of time with the kids/family, right? Well, if that's the only reason you're doing it, then don't. If there is a legitimate reason, the best of which would be that YOU want to, then go ahead and make the plans.


Yes - GH, you're right on the money here. I think HE will think I'm being mean & purposely omitting him from time with his kids on the holiday.

My version is we've got Friday, Saturday and Sunday that we could spend out of the house, the kids would see their cousins & aunts/uncles/grandparents for the weekend. HIS time here would be what - Sunday - at who knows what time (for I will NOT ask him to come stay here that Saturday night). I mean, I'm gonna be Easter Bunny, I doubt he'll be here in time to see them get their baskets or take pix or video or whatever...so why should we stay home for the whole weekend just for him to see the kids for a few hours? That's what I'm thinking - not to intentionally hurt him.

Another alternative would be to go up Friday & come back Saturday night. Or invite family here. I'll have to think on it some more.

I guess I just "know" how he's going to react. He'll try to make me feel bad that he's "WORKING" and providing for us and we won't even be here for him to come spend the day with. I'd bet my right foot he'll say something along those lines. But it's high time I STOP worrying about it, right? Right. I just never seem to come up with proper answers to those kinds of things he says. Then again, if he was so concerned, he could have said something about plans for the day by now. We both seem to dance around these kinds of things, I don't know why. Well, I know why I do it - I don't want to seem like I expect him to be here or pursue him or whatever.