You know what OT, now that you pointed it out, I "see" that in SO. The staying stuck in old patterns thing. I'm sorry to say, that's too bad for him - our old "R" is dead and gone. If he wants something with me in the future, well, it's not going to be the same old, same old. By putting us on this path, well, it was beneficial. He forced the change - my change, his change, and our R change - by doing what he did. Never foreseeing the consequences - good or bad.
I didn't put it in my last post, but last night he called and asked if I was "OK" and in a good mood after he left for the night. My answer, "Yeah - I am in a good mood!" And I really truly was. Of course, I don't like him leaving...but WTH. I'm playing with the hand that was dealt me - I'll make the most of it, and maybe I'll beat the dealer this round.
I'm not going to pretend to be upset that he left - I wasn't. Well, a little, but - I know that it's a necessary evil and also that things never stay the same. I tell D7 this all the time, when she feels a little left out, or doesn't understand why I have to spend so much time on her little sisters. I always tell her "It won't be this way forever. Things change. Soon the girls will be older. It may "feel" like forever, but it isn't." I remind her of how the baby was when she was an infant...she didn't do anything but lay there, poop, and eat!! LOL And now - she's walking & talking and playing with D7. I use this as a metaphor for my whole life!
As for SO's behavior getting more bizarre, oh boy! Isn't he bizarre enough??? LMAO
