GREAT post NM. I really think you're onto something BUT be careful because if I go back and read through my threads, I see a similar pattern of wonderful breakthroughs in DBing coincidentally (or not so much) following nice days with the W. It was amazing how easy it was to detach when things were going well, lol.
Anyway, don't dwell on that. Just realize that you DID make a stride towards emotional freedom and that WILL help you through the tough times that are still on the horizon for you. I think SO is going to start seeing this "you" that is happier and more secure in herself. It will make him curious and that's a good thing.
As for going dark, that's fine but do it for your sanity, not to teach him a lesson. He will learn the lesson no matter what, you don't have to try to teach him. There is a difference and it's in that doing it for you makes HIS reaction to it irrelevant. IF you do it for HIM, and he does not respond how you think he should or might, then you may end up sabotaging you own efforts.
I think you are doing GREAT and I hope for your sake that this day is as good as the last!
