Well, just an update. Life goes on.No major issues except for my FIL. My ex was working at her job and I dropped my daughter off at their house to my SIL and BIL who were watching the kids for her. Anyway, their wireless computer connections were no longer working due to my ex upgrading her DSL connection. Whatever they di stopped it from working on all but one computer. ANyway, my ex knew that my BIL and I were going to work on this and so we were looking into stuff when my daughter said that her grandfather knew about some icon thing on the main computer. Well, we brought that PC up and while doing this her dad, my FIL, came over from next door. I said hi and then said to him "You said there was an icon on the left?" He then innocuosly said "Let me ask you something first." I said "Ok, what?" Then he attacks and says "What the hell are you doing on her computer?" I was taken aback and my BIL says "I asked him to look at it. He knows far more than I about this stuff." I just looked and said to my BIL with my daughter standing there "I need to go." I gave my daughterr a hug and then went updtairs to give my sons a hug. My S9 said dad are you going to fix the computer and xbox live? I told him that I had to go. (How sad is that that my FIL sticks his nose in where it isn't needed.) WHat did he think I did push past everyone and just start using the computer? Like I said, my BIL stood up for me. I just left without further incident and was supposed to drop by my exes job to ask her something on my way home. I was so infuriated, that I called my mom to vent before going to talk to my ex who wassick at work. Well, I went in and told her what happened. She said that her dad and mom were all over her for her job and the kids, etc. and that he was just in a bad mood. (You know I did nothing wrong.) She knows that .

I think what hurts the most is that my ex and I are trying on some level to do things together, get along etc. Why can't he keep out of it? It really is none of his business. I know he cares about his daughter; but he also knows that we do things together. I have been nothing but nice to them regardless of how they have been to me.

If they only knew the truth and how I have been there for their daughter. More than they could ever be. I don't want them to know about her problems unless she wants to tell them; but man stop with the meaness and realize that my kids are standing there when you attack their dad for no reason.

This makes it so hard to think about the possibility of it working. She and I could decide to try and then we have to overcome their disapproval when they really shouldn't have any.

Ny kids went out this past week with my ex and she actually took them to get presents for me for christmas. I thin kthat is good that she finally sees that is the right thing to do for the kids. I don't know if we will ever get back together; but what we definitely don't need is outside sources circumventing any possible attempt at it.

Keep their opinions to themselves and let things take their course. this isn't their life it is ours. I knowthat I can't do anything about it. That needs to come from my ex.

Well, so far things are still on for the 6th of Jan; but incidents likethat make me feel uneasy as to what they will try and tell her to do.

Well, enough venting; but I had to get it off my chest. I am not perfect; but I am one of the best things that ever happened to her. I have been there through the highs and the lows when most I know have wondered how I could do that after what I was put through. You know why I do it? Because I know I didn't make her do the stuff she did; but I do know that I along with herparents and others helped contribute to her esteem issues that led her down the path she went.

I wanted to be there for her. I guess that's what love is all about. (Or stupidity!!!)