Come on...you need to stop living in the past. It's over. You are both divorced...yes, you have a son...that's your common bond. But you need to move on...
I don't want you to feel criticized or feel that I'm being harsh on you...I"m not. I just see that you're "holding on to hope" - you're reliving the times before the D.
You just can't do that...it's a waste of time. She's living the way she wants to - it's her life...she can live as if she's 20 again...you must accept that.
Go out - join a parents w/o partners group - meet new people - don't look back...she isn't that person anymore.
Please, look around, there are millions of good peple that are divorced, for whatever reasons, you'll see them. I'm afraid that you're holding onto a dream - you live in the past, with her old self - you need to move forward.
Of course, you're going to have to go through a lot of women, before you find another "one". You're much wiser now, you know what is important in a R. You know what type you're looking for...go with it. The other two fizzeled could it be that you cling to your XW and the new ladies pick up on that? Women are very astute when they feel that a man may have not gotten over his last love. That is hard competition to follow...you just might be sabotaging the new R (not knowingly) and the two ladies might have felt it.
It's been two years now...you could have been with someone new...two years wasted...don't continue this way...you'll just grow old and lonely.
Try to meet one new person per day...but actively put your- self on the market...make it your job to find someone new.
You can meet people at the grocery store, dry cleaners, gas station, church, anywhere. But you have to want to do this.
If your XW would ever want you back...then she'll come back to you begging. What my grandmother used to say was: A watched kettle never boils...you're wasting your life away...there is someone out there waiting for you...but you need to be openly available - mentally available.
Trust me...you have your whole life ahead of you...you'll be surprised how quickly your XW will fade into the past when you become involved with someone new.
Tman...the clock is ticking...you're smart, most likely handsome, you have a good head on your shoulders, you're kind, thoughtful and loving...what woman wouldn't go for that?
