that isn't what i holding me back. I have met a few people I have had interest in; but then it just fizzles with no explanation. Kind of discouraging to not just throw in the towel.
As far as my ex, alot would have to change on her part too if it were to go anywhere. I took my stepson to th orthodontists today and we had a talk. He is aggravated at having to come home each day and watch the kids so that mom can go off to work or whatever. I don't blame him. It's great that she has an escape like work; but at the expense of the children and their upbringing? Immature if you ask me. None of our divorce was necessary. But she found i easier to fall into the arms of someone else, who in the end doesn't care about her and uses people. She knows that now, as she was getting blackmailed with evidence of things she had done with him :-(
Hell, I would forgive and work onthings; but as my stepson says without knowing those details, that it isn't his decision or mine to fix. He knows it lies with his mom, who seems to concentrate on her being happy and having fun more than our family or kids. Don't get me wrong she does things with the kids and they love her; but alot of times I feel that the caring, loving mature parent she was is now replaced by someone who feels an entitlement to their own life regardless. For me, I would love that too; but any relationship I may have in the future must work for my children too!!!
I used to try and get her to go out and enjoy things with me and when we didn't, it made me angry and question why??? I still don't understand why the things I used to ask her to do, she now does. However, they are without me and with these "newfound friends" (i.e. coworkers half her age. SHe has already been burnt by one who hung out with her because she was 41 and the girl was in her mid 20's. the girls thinking was that she could meet gus easier with someone older not being in the way; but a young guy actually talked to my ex and it po'ed the girl off. My ex sees everyone elses behavior as immature, wrong; but never looks at her own actions. Her affair, was the other persons fault and she just got sucked in. She doesn't tkae responsibility for her actions and buries them. Gets emotional for a day or 2 and then they are buried and the blame is placed on others.
Yes, I wish she would come out of that fog and talk and listen...really talk and listen. Maybe then we could fix it and for our family. It's sad that I want to be a part of their lives everyday and would be; but for visitation. And my ex worries about the next time she can go out with "friends".
I do wish I could find someone who is wonderful and willing to work on lifes ups and downs (She said that in her profile!!! If true, then look I am right here!!! lol)
Seems like most of those types are happily married or they are scared to trust again.
I keep pluggin along; but it is discouraging. Especially when you stepson says he dislikes his dad and wishes we were still together as a family. She just doesn't see our kids problems. Even my stepson does and feels bad and he is only 15!!!
