Man, for someone who doesn't want to be married to me, she tends to call when there is an issue with something. Like for instance, the car accident she had a month ago. SHe calls to find out from me what else she is supposed to do if anything to push along the process, whether to get multiple estimates, etc. She calls twice about this today!!! It's too bad that she doesn't realize all the little stressful things that I used to do that she never had to worry about. She is starting to see, hopefully, all the things that may have stressed me out. But, alas, it is probably too late and she is too stubborn to admit that maybe she made a mistake.
I don't know about anyone else on here; but I think the last person in the world that I would call to find out info on things would be my ex. I wouldn't want to give the other person the satisfaction of thinking I needed them for something.
THis is really hard trying be friendly, while she acts like we are friends and such. The counselor said today that in some ways she acts very immature.
Another is her online dating site thinng. She tells me last night how she hasn't talked to that fireman in a few days adn that she would stress out due to the danger involved in that type of job. My comment was "Gee software engineers are so much safer aren't they!!!" ;-)
Then she tells me how sh is going to go home and counsel some guy in Ohio. We don't even live near that state!!!
I feel so sad; because she seems so lost; but unwilling to stand up to her family or herself and admit that maybe we should have worked it out. She claims she wants a personal life; but then she keeps coming to me for answers!!! Also, this is the one I love. In her online profile she claims that her kids are open to letting someone into their mothers life...Definitely not true. I even told my kids the other day that dad would have loved nothing more than to be all together again; but that it probably won't happen. I could see my daughters eyes well up. Maybe I shouldn't have said anything; but I wanted to tell them the truth.
Anyway, I have a free weekend and anyone that wants to meet with me wants to wait until Sunday...So, now I have no weekend plans. I am going to have to go out myself and that is no fun.
My ex asked me if I could watch our 2 youngest so she could go to my stepsons hip hop dance recital. No ticket for me, not her fault; but I told her I already had plans; because I thought I might. However, I feel so guilty not taking advantage of having the kids for some extra time; but I feel like since she is not coming back that I need to use my free time to be out there.