Well, the nastiness continues!!! It's like a switch got thrown last Sunday. We talked last Sunday about what had happened on her job and I listened like a friend; but then once she talked about that, she went nasty and has stayed that way since!!! I am sad; but don't need this. I really thought more of her than this. I can't live with someone who gets controlled by others. Acts one way and then almost like a split personality, goes 180!!! I mean I would think, regardless, that if you din't want to pursue a relationship, that all the work of getting along just doesn't totally stop and then turn so opposite!!! I assume she is split personality, or lost or something. I( mean, it is immaturity.
Like I have said before, I just hate that my kids will be influenced by a family like hers. Belve me, I don't want my kids influenced by my mom either!!! My mom is a nice person; but she is too strict in my mind.
My ex talks about them controlling her and then does nothing!!! Hey her problem; but I hate that the kids get this too. She claims about splitting with me, "I finally grew a pair of b**ls. Not really; because you fear telling your parents about the affair, the tattoo and going for a drink after work instead of coming home. Instead, telling them she had to work late!!! Me, I am a 40+ adult and I thought she was too. As much as I appreciate my parents help at times, they and I know it is my life to do as I need. That is the diff between her and I. She thinks she makes her decisions; but it is her family who does. For me, I know I make mine. I take parents and friends advice and process it and then make a decision on what I think I should do.
Yes, sad that I probably won't be a success story in the respect of fixing a relationship; but I know that I can look myself and my kids in the mirror and say I (Dad) tried. My daughter misses me beingthere daily. I just hope as she and the others get older, that they realize I care and am there for them and I don't lose them to her.
I still believe in all the principles of the book and this site!!! I would always recommend this method and tell others to try like I did regardless of the outcome!!!
