I am so sorry about your situation. You have DBed your butt off and I could strangle your H.
I have a feeling that if your H were to actually end up with Monster, the shine would be of their R, as Monster seems to thrive on creating havoc more than anything. She'd soon be working on her next conquest. And if she thinks divorce is good, then I hope it happens painfully and frequently to her, just so she can really enjoy it to full effect.