Deb - Personally, I'd kick his sorry butt out of the house. Sorry, but if he is still talking about getting together with her, that is wrong. If he's fishing with her, he's going to have sex with her.
I am very sorry about your son. That is terrible that your H didn't go with you to the hospital, you should focus on your son.
As far as needing to lose weight - start writing down everything you eat, get a handle on calories, and get up extra early to walk. That is a start and will help you battle your weight. You need to get healthy - not just for your weight, but for being a healthy, happy mom for your son.
