Deb -

Your H might be having an affair still, or not - there is no way to know it unless you catch him (if he is). But you should start putting yourself first. You cannot take care of yourself, your son, and perhaps your H too unless you start taking care of your own needs (exercise, eating, etc.). Don't make excuses to be good to yourself, just do it - don't put it off. Good exercise is a HUGE stress reliever.