Deb - honestly, you have been cheated on for so long, I'm surprised you aren't more clingy! He is usually the clingy one, wanting to know where you have been.

I agree that time away would be a good thing. You need a good break from everything going on, and perhaps a long one. I'd be surprised if he isn't lying to you again, it certainly sounds like it. He is still too involved with Monsters life, and I think the only real way to save your marriage is to leave the company and perhaps move out of the area. It may be expensive, but it may be the only way to get her out of your lives on a day-to-day basis.

If he sees her every day, I don't see an end to what you are going through, ever.

Think about what YOU want out of your life now. He's been thinking solely about himself for nearly 3 years, it's your turn. I also agree with the previous poster about sitting down with him, discuss all of your options (if he can sit down and talk reasonably). Have an exit strategy in case it doesn't work out. Myself, I've learned that relationships don't always last, and as hard as I want to stay in this one, I also know that there are lots of wonderful options for me if H decides he wants out (or if he does something that I can't stay with him for, like hitting me, etc.). I'd love to have a 50 year marriage, that would be my #1 option. But if my marriage ever ended? I have so many things I now think I'd love to do, I am not scared like I used to be. I don't need a man anymore to have a great life.

Anyway - I wish the very best for you, no matter what happens. Not all marriages are saved, a lot are not. If yours can be, that is great and I hope it can. But he's so stuck on Monster, and having her in his face every day is not helping that at all. Move across the country, get out of dodge, just GO. And fast food is okay, occasionally - just don't eat the Big Mac, go for a kids meal. I almost never eat fast food anymore, but every so often.