hmmmm, Ellie, I never really thought about the ocd connection...but yes, I have seen some other compulsive things, but never thought too much about it because it didnt interfere w/ability to function...but yes, he is so obsessed with everything being in it's place, it can drive him to anger when it's not. Several years ago, I would watch him go to the front door every night and check to see that it was locked, over and over and over again....he wants his clothes put away in a certain way, I dont' even do the laundry because he insists it's done a certain way...which is fine by me, I hate it anyway, so I just let it go, but he is very picky about it. And he tends to be a hoarder....it wasnt very long ago that he tossed the papers he wrote in college, undergrad as well as grad school, and clothes that he'd had since the 70's. I guess I never made the connection, it never occured to me. He also has a mind for details that sometimes amazes me, and hates change in his environment of any type.
That would certainly throw a new wrench in the mixture, wouldnt it? AND of course you're right, monster's doing every darn thing she can to keep herself firmly planted in his mind,from whining about her horrible health problems (interesting, no mention of them on her personals ad!) to tidbits about all her D's struggles, to her mother's health problems for Gods sake!
I wonder if there would be a way to ask him about the obsessions? Or maybe just focus more on distraction/displacement.
I'll check out the website you mentioned for email ideas. I did just get an email from him, that made some sexual suggestions. I emailed back that his naught idease were getting me all stirred up and I might have to see if something could be done about it later. actually, I don't think i ever mentioned it but 2 weeks ago we had a really racy running email convo., so maybe there are some "good things" happening some of the time in that area.
Wish there was something I could slip in his coffee to take care of the ocd stuff!
