Hearing for Motion for reduced temp maint was this last Wed. What a joke. Both lawyers were severely chewed out by court commisioner for not having met deadlines of court orders from the LAST hearing.
Of course, Hs lawyer was his usually 'ahole' self. He made really nasty putdowns. Like about my job, and how I could be making more working ona line with better beneftis, and how he doubted I was even working fulltime. Also questioned my financial disclosure. So...next hearing is in July, have to bring as many receipts and proof that I can. Unfortunately, with the move i made in April, there is plenty that i haven't found, and I have used cash during some of this time as it was easier to deal with when there was such a time crunch.
Hs idea of a 'proposal', was to buy me out and waive any maintenance at all. Hmmmm. Big suprise. When my attorney said what he was asking Hs went ballistic. More times than not, the court commisioner had to 'shush' him up. My L is going to do something that I didn't think was going to be necessary. Not mentioning here yet..but if he does it, H will go ballistic. Big time. I'm not scared, but i also was hoping that things wouldn't have to go in this direction.
This next hearing will be in front of the judge himself, not the court comissioner. And our attorneys will be allowed to question us both. I am NOT looking forward to Hs attorney being able to do that to me. he is sooooo toxic and nasty. He tries his best to get a reaction by badmouthing .
I can't believe this has dragged on as long as it has. The court keeps wondering why this has taken so long. And now H attorney is saying the same thing. WTF???? H is the one that filed, not me. H is the one that hasn't done any of the legwork/paperwork, I have. H is the one that should have initiated every step of this, and pushed to have it finalized. I do know that one thing that H has been doing with all this prolonging, is changing his so called 'financial' situation. What a joke. I hope the court will be able to see through all these tactics.
So, LBSs...when the MLC bug hits, and the bomb is dropped, get legal advice right away, and get the financial stuff started. You don't have to do anything legal to push a divorce through...but don't trust your WAS not to be as devious and manipulative as most are. You will be shocked by what this 'alien' is capable of doing. I never, ever though my H would turn on me like this..and become this person that thinks that only he is entitled to what he wants, and to H with everything and everyone else.
I still pray everynight for him..but I also pray that God will be by my side through all of this..regardless of how it ends. I no longer see and easy end to this. if it dies..it will die a slow, painful death. True, God can raise the dead, but that's His choice and His job. It's one that I can only pray my sons and I can survive.
My love and support to all of you.
Women are angels. And when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick. We are flexible
