Looks like Hs lawyer wants a 2 day trial. If this happens, it won't be until after the first of next year. "Expert" witnesses, and all. Unbelievable. Any equity that would be from the house will be eaten entirely up because of this. I watched H from across the table, and his face was one of 'uh-oh'. His lawyer has been itching to take this to trial. I would imagine that is why he never returned any of my Ls correspondence in regards to sitting down, and trying to come to a compromise. That wasn't even brought up...just said he sees this as a 2 day trial. I wonder if H is so stupid he doesn't realize he's being taken to the cleaners, and I won't be the only one with nothing left. All this because he doesn't want to pay maintenance. What the H is he thinking! You don't have a 30 year marriage, a major discrepancy in incomes, and not have maintenance awarded to equal things out. He'll still end up having to pay maintenance!
And how does it look that he's the one that filed, but has failed to follow through on this divorce. I have not held it up or put hurdles in the way!! This has been all his doing. And I believe the court commisioner realizes that..he pretty much as said so. I wish there was a way of him knowing that Hs side is the one that hasn't wanted to sit at the table to try to deal with this.
I sat with my L after the meeting, and he explained a few things to me. He also said that he watched my Hs face as the dates just kept getting farther and farther away, and more and more 'witnesses' were going to be called. My L said Hs face really showed reality hitting. All I can do is hope that H comes to his senses before this goes too far and realizes that this is the reality of divorce. You don't just get up and walk away into your new found la-la land.
I've really got to put this in Gods hands now. I don't know how I'm going to be able to handle all the obligations and stress this drawn out thing is going to cause. I can't believe that H has drawn s22 into this now, by saying he shouldn't have to pay as much maintenance as he is now because s22 is and adult and not working. Little does he know that I have not been paying s22s expenses until he finds work...my mother has been. But H decided to use son as a leverage against me. At this point, both boys are seeing a side they probably wanted to believe didn't exist. They're both really upset about this now. Which may be good in a way. It may be good for H to hear from his sons, if they want to, what they feel about all of this, and about how they feel about him. That too, I'm staying out of. I'm not going to defend H to them. What H does to me, he does to them too. I will never be able to leave anything to my sons if H gets his way.
Anyway...that's my update. This rollercoaster is just taking off at the starting gate it seems.
Women are angels. And when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick. We are flexible
