Quote: H has to take responsibility for his choices and actions
I've watch these WAS scoot right past the responsibility part, over and over again.... leaving it up to us to take care of the mess they have made. What if we weren't there with the broom and dust pan for once? I think they count on us to clean up after them... I really do.
Oh, sure, it's hard to break old habits, but I really think we hurt the situation by fixing... by enabling, by doing those things we originally didn't plan on. It's why I think if you just sit back and wait, it just may happen your stbxh will have to take the responsibility.
Again, I know it's a rock and a hard place, because there may be more money involved, but there has to be a happy medium, where you can sit and wait on your stbxh to take responsibility of his own stuff. I wonder how your L would take being told, enough is enough, he wanted this divorce, let's wait until he shows his face or makes an attempt to provide the necessary information/task to complete this divorce.
I'm sure he/she may not like it too much or might advise you against it... but Creed, you've been towing the responsibility rope for a bit too long.... it's time he did something for himself.
Sounds good on paper, doesn't it??
Take care... let me know what you decide.
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