I wish I only had the answers, for I could not only help you out, I could help myself. I have been wondering many of the same things you have about this divorce stuff.... as you know I've been divorced now for 20 months, and I have yet to receive the support, deeds, or anything I was promised back in 2004. I'm still in court.... I think. Last I heard from my attorney is he is trying to get a hearing date/time. He's been doing this for 3 weeks now, while xh has been in contempt since a month after the dang thing was finalized.
My point... what is my point? I do understand how you feel. I don't know what you can do, or what you are supposed to do. But I'm here and listening....
What would happen IF you stop contacting your L? What if you responded just like your stbxh? Oh, sure, there are the legalities, but could you just let it sit until your stbxh gets his butt chewed by the court.... he's the one that filed, I would think they would go after him.
Otherwise, I don't have an idea.... sorry.
I really felt your vent, and agree whole heartedly!
Take care of you! You are in my prayers.
Love,
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Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
