Just home for work..bedtime pretty soon, as I go in at 7am tomorrow morning.
I had a full morning before work today. Went to sign all the papers at the apartment building, took a 2nd tour of it all. Got the keys..WROTE OUT THE CHECK ..Ugh!. I'm tickled as can be that there is a small patio where I can put/plant some flowers, a spot out front with a big half barrel for planting flowers, etc. It will certainly make it feel more 'homey', which is just what I wanted after being a homeowner for so long. It won't seem so odd. I got a better look at the bedrooms. I can't believe the closet space..I have NEVER had that much closet space in my life! And s23s room has just as much closet space..so what he doesn't use up, I'll just kind of invade myself (snicker) The apt. complex was built in the late 70s, so it's older..and alot of the woodwork, etc. looks it. But I can live with it. More good news. After the first year lease..it goes monthly. Which means I won't be tied down forever if I want to move to something smaller/bigger/cheaper or whatever.
Mom wanted to help this weekend while I was at work, but S23 wants to do it on his own. Since this is the first time he's showed any interest in 'our' new home, I told her to just step back and let him do what he's able to do..that it would help him to adjust better probably. After being raised in this house for the last 22 years, I'm sure this is a big hurdle for him too..not just me. So, that gives me hope that he and I will be able to start communicating better...emotionally and verbally. He's been very distant, very moody and very obstinate as the months have gone by. Hopefully this move will be just what we both need.
Wow...LR...you nailed it. I am finally excited and ready to 'do it' now. The time is here...and I'm ready. A door is closing, but another is opening. All the emotions you mentioned...they're exactly what I'm feeling.
Oh Lib...yes, I'm VERY glad that I have the attorney that I do. I hear absolutely nothing by praise for him in divorce situations. I've never seen the hard side of him, but when it comes down to it..I guess he fights like hell, and knows the ins and outs like the back of his hand. All this time I thought he was maybe too laid back..I think he's just been reserving his energy for when it is needed the most. I have every confidence in him, and have no reason to doubt his sincerity in trying for the best deal I can get. I hope Hs attorneys bad reputation precedes him if this goes to court. It won't help H at all if the judge would have an 'issue' with his attorney, now would it. This guy is so obnoxious...so argumentative...such a blowhard that it is embarrasing. I truly don't believe that H has any idea what type of attorney his guy is. I don't know who referred H to him, but an attorney with this guys 'reputation' is not someone who is generally liked in the court system. Maybe he plays really dirty..I don't know. But if he tries, I know my L will be right there shoveling the dirt right back. Can't think of what that dirt might be, because I don't remember the marriage really ever being something to badmouth, but.....as we know MLCer can pull all sorts of things out of thin air. In this state, doesn't really matter anyway. I would hate to think that H and I would start having this type of thing happen, but I do believe his L would have no qualms in arguing I did something terrible like folding Hs underwear the wrong way
Karen..thanks for all the well wishes. They're certainly appreciated and very much needed right now. There are alot of things that have to fall into place in a short amount of time, and I hope 'helpers' start coming out of the woodwork in the next couple of weeks. That would be nice...really nice.
Oh...did I mention, as I've had to call utility company, insurance company, etc...that once they find out I'm moving because of divorce, etc....in general, each one of them has wished me well, gave me 'advice' on how to do things so that I end up on the good side of things, etc. etc. I have had nothing but support from these people who are complete strangers to me. I think there are so many people that have been divorced, or know people that have been...that they realize how hard, frightening and draining it all is. I certainly did not expect that customer service reps would be so personable with this type of situation. It's wonderful..and just what a LBS needs at a time like this. Knowing there are people that care and want to help, even if it's just in their line of work. God blesses us in many ways..and unexpected ways.
Off to bed for me. This weekend should be a very busy and exhausting one between work both days, and moving at night. What was that line that was always said in Lethal Weapon movies???? "I'm too old for this!!"
Thanks again friends
Women are angels. And when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick. We are flexible
