Leslie, I really feel for you. This sucks, doesn't it? But you know what, our H's really have control. Unless we decide that we don't want to be with them anh longer, and then we have control. But you and I both want our marriages to work out. We are willing to forgive and forget and move forward. We have to understand that even though we still live with our spouses and that is what WE want, it may not be what they want, YET. Let them do waht they have to do, as hard as it is. They have to get OW out of their system on their own. We CANNOT force them, they will end up resenting us big time. Remember that you are not a victim. This is something your H has done, it has nothing to do with you, it has everything to do with him and his feelings. Eventually he will realize that the grass is not greener, and even if he doesn't you will be such an emotionally strong person that you will be able to cope under any circumstances.
