Again, I'm really sorry for your pain at this point. Yes, it is completely frustrating and I know for my part I go through the exact same thoughts and feelings. Ultimately, do what you think is best for your sitch, altough I guess if I were you, I wouldn't contact the OW....I like the idea of typing the e-mail, but I wouldn't hit send. Doesn't really help anything.
Back off, give him space to miss you. I know it seems like pure hell, but waffling is a lot better than finality, if you know what I mean. Confusion will only work to your advantage in the long run because it shows that the feelings he does have for you, while not as prevalaent, are still there. This is very powerful.
"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu
