I completely understand your pain and totally sympathize with you. Nothing feels worse than working your tail off for so many months, only to find that you're really stuck in the same place. That being said, I honestly believe that it is time to try something different, as Michelle would say. Does that mean going totally "dark"? I don't know, living in the same househould with someone else really makes that difficult and honestly, I don't think it should be fully employed but only as a last, last resort.
Now, the pursuing/distancing thread that NM had linked for you is more likely the style you are seeking. Back off, give him space and monitor the results. It seems that everytime I do this, I tend to get somewhat positive reactions....the problem is, I tend to react myself much to quickly, thereby negating any positives :-(
In any event, don't give up hope just yet. I can sense from your posts that you honestly do love your H and would love nothing more than to spend the rest of your life with him. Don't jump ship just yet.....try new tactics and monitor results.
All the best,
Rob
"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu
