Ok, I just wanted that to be my shortest post ever...lol.
Quote: I feel that detachment is coming on it's own. I'm not trying so hard to let go and focus on myself, it's just happening. Of course, this could be because things have been improving over the last couple weeks, but I think that is really only a small part of it. I am curious to see what his week will bring, what comes out of his C session tonite, what kind of fabulous job I will find!
Two quick things. First off, yes, detachment CAN happen on it's own and I think given time, it usually does in our sithes.
Secondly, be careful because I found that my detachment really happened best when there wasn't much to detach from, at least negative things. As soon as the positive time left, and the roller-coaster went back down again, my detachment was not so good.
I am not saying that you are doing badly, quite the contrary, you sound GREAT but I am just asking you to apply the same principles of "believe nothing that they say and only xx% of what you see" to this new-found glory you have. So long as the OW is in the picture, i.e. H is ALLOWING her to be, then there is the possibility that you could be in for some more surprises.
Now, that said, I really hope that's NOT the case and that your H is warming up to the wonderful, loving W he needs to be 100% back with NOW!
Remember, it's not just the negative stuff that's possible, it IS possible he's coming around...just make sure it's real before sticking yourself out there too far.
