Hi Leslie, My H and your H seem to have alot in common, if you ever have the time drop by my thread (I don't post often) to see what I mean. My H definitely seems to be taking care of his inner 18 year old as well, definitely (early!!)MLC. And the analogy about Lucy taking the football away, boy is that ever true! And so awful to live through! Anyway, just wanted to offer support and say that I think you are right to want to be there for your H. I feel the same way, except when I get really mad, which is not too often anymore. Just last nite I told H that I decided to love him unconditionally and will always be there for him no matter what he chooses to do, as a friend, but that I cannot put my life on hold while he figures it out. When I read of your letter to him, I identified with your thinking totally, and since I know from my own experiences that most people (well meaning loved ones) do not understand or support such thinking, that maybe you might need to hear that from as many people as possible. I know I do. Keep your chin up, I just know there is a great reward at the end of this tough road we are on!!
