Yo-yo, yes, I've read some of your sitch before, very similiar, kids are even close to the same age! You know, you'd think with all these WAH's behaving relatively the same way, some smart lady would invent a fix-him pill... KIDDING! Thank you for dropping by!

I know the way to get through this, the detachment and GAL AND focusing on the kids have worked tremendously through this whole ordeal, I just need to stick to it! Yesterday, the whole weekend, was very dark for me, I needed those few days to wallow. Today, I feel better, yes it is largely because H came home all lovey and romantic last nite, but the good feelings from that aren't "oh he loves me he really loves me," it's more just that it has set the stage to do what I need to do without the tension and the dramatics.

And, as far as the kids, (this is to remind myself, too), they are incredibly sweet, smart boys. They KNOW something is up, even if they do not know specifically what, even if H and I talk R after their bedtime, they still sense it. I can see it in my S9's eyes sometimes when he look's at me and his dad. Their happiness is absolutely the most important thing right now, and I need to be there for them however they need me.