Just want to say that it's absolutely normal to be feeling angry and hurt. Think we are in quite similar grounds? My H also had an A with his coworker. We have two boys... S8.5 and S6. He left the company and joined another, and moved to a different country. At that time, told me that he needed to think things over and perhaps kids and I will join in later. And guess what? I found out that he actually had the whole intention of leaving us behind and bring ow with him. I was devastated... I was all over the place with my emotions. It's been a year since I found out about the A, 7 1/2 months since H moved to the foreign country... no signs of any D yet, but still no action whatsoever from my H. Yes, we are somewhat in a limbo but I've resolved to NOT wondering too much or thinking too much about my H or my M (but of course occassionally it crops into my mind).. I've tried to focus on myself and my kids, and frankly,...I think I am coping well.(Sorry for hijack...but what I am trying to highlight here is that there is NOTHING we can do to change our H. They would have to come to their own conclusion as to what is important to them. If ow is who they want to spend their life with, we can't stop that. Can we? We have to stand back and let them decide for themselves. BUT neither would we want to PUSH our H to the ow. So, what do we do? We get on with our lives happily...for our own sake, and for our boys' sakes. We have to stop feeding our hurt with awful hurtful thoughts, because H is not going to care, is he?? Gosh...but of course there are exceptions when our PMS hormones does funny things.. )
Prime your mind to focus on yourself and your kids... and I am sure everything will fall into place.
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