Taking responsibility for me

[BeingMe]

Forget the OW! I obsessed about my H's OW, and really, it was a waste of time. Work on yourself - find the person you were when your H first fell in love with you. That's what I did, and still doing. It's a journey of rediscovering yourself, and being okay with whatever happens in your M.

Ultimately, work toward it being okay whether he leaves or stays. Sad, if he leaves, but life goes on, and sometimes is better for the lessons learned.

I won my H back, yes, but he still has a lot of work to be done on himself. But, that's another story.

Detachment, is definitely the way to go. It took me a long time to learn and to do, but once I got to that point, I was much happier, and more at peace with whatever decision he made, and I was also stronger knowing that I may or may not want him back. And, there's the crunch!

Yeah, and have no expectations of anyone or anything (except yourself) - that way, you are never disappointed.

I like your goals, and I agree that one should always take it one day at time. Small steps.

Will be checking back in!