When I broke things off with OM, he actually threatened to come to my house (this is when H came home the first time). He also went to the house of a friend I worked with whom he had thought I must have started up ANOTHER affair with (which was not the case). He went through that guys garbage, called my husband and gave him the friend's name and address and then proceeded to get credit cards in my friends name and run up massive bills. He also contacted me and made me think my H was the one doing all of that. So it was total chaos and the only one I KNEW was innocent was the friend from work. The ex-om had also followed him and threatened him. We went to the police. An investigation was started. In the meantime, my friends mail was stopped, his insurance cancelled and I already mentioned the credit cards....it was insane. The ex-om also got into my friends checking account and stopped payments on all his checks. In addition, he was following me, taking pictures of me, calling me and threatening me and also sending nasty emails to my husband. By the time it was over, he was in jail and I had to testify in court about the whole damn mess, the affair, EVERYTHING. It was incredibly humiliating. One thing I still can't believe is that I thought my husband was doing it at one point. He never did anything. He was also a victim.
I shared all that so you will know to be careful. These guys are off their rocker and it is all about control. When they start losing it, they go crazy.
