Posting to Don, I remembered something else my W said. She confessed to all the lies she has been telling me. She said that it was rare for her to EVER get to be alone over the past few months because this guy was always around. She said that she started wanting that to change long ago but he kept pursuing.
Anyway, I responded with probably the only real negative thing I said to her all night. I said "I guess if I am angry or truly disappointed in anything beyond the affair itself, it's that you seemed to think I was an idiot." I went on to tell her that I knew when she met him, etc and that I didn't even have to snoop to figure it out. She's just a bad liar. Luckily this was said at one of the lighter moments of the night and we both kinda laughed it off.
I think she really felt silly, embarrassed, etc, when she really understood how much I knew. I guess this is what they mean when they say you don't need to tell them what you know, save that for when you reconcile. I never understood that until now. It saved her a lot of explaining when I just told her what I knew but IF I had told her anytime before now it would have made things worse.
GH
P.S. Is the gatemaster away for the weekend. Seems like a lock should have been slapped up in here long ago. Maybe I'll set some kind of record here...
