Wow. That's all I can say. Lots to post but not too much time. Here is the Clifs Notes version...
W was in a FOUL mood when I got home from work this afternoon and I STARTED to be the old GH and get angry at her for being distant and moody. I let some of my frustration slip but I did finally get control and I just let her be. I went to the game and she barely acknowledged that I left.
When I got home, she was on the phone with the GF she says she is planning to go out with. Well, she didn't do a very good job of being quiet and I could tell she was NOT talking to any GF. It was a man but I don't know who. So I got pissed, calmed down, but still did my little passive/agressive thing and went out to the garage where she was to get one of my cameras from my car. On the way past I said loudly, hi GF (her name of course), and kept going. On the surface it was not unusal for me to do that. I know this woman pretty well and like I said, that was not THAT unusal, except that I know it wasn't her on the phone. I instantly regretted doing that.
When W came in, I was upstairs and she yelled up to me asking "what was that all about?" I played dumb and said "what, I was just saying hi", more out of embarassment than anything. I guess I did a good job because she must have decided she was being paraniod and apologized to me. I let it go and so did she...whew.
What then ensued was a LONG R talk, or really her opening up to me that she had a bad day and she needed to talk to her friends. I said I wished she would feel like she could do that with me. She said it was nothing and she would be ok...then proceeded to lay out a LOT of things on her mind. In the course of all this she said she was trying to save our marriage and, get this, that she REALLY loves the man I have been over the past 2 months, even more than when we got married. It's just that she needs time to work through her "issues" some of which she outlined but I have to assume some of them are about OM.
There was a lot more but that was the gist. I will post in great detail tomorrow or maybe Monday. Good place to start a new thread.
