Quote: It sounds like the controlling GH is under the surface trying to come out. Right now, take her for her word. If she said she is going out, then she is going out. Do not start speculating and letting your paranoia control you.
Mama, thanks for that. That DOES sound like how I was approaching this for the longest time. What changed? Well, she stopped going out. Now that she is, I am bypassing all the good DB stuff and going back to my OLD ways without passing go or collecting $200. I have posted many a time that I believe the BEST DBing happens when it is least needed, lol. What I mean is that it's no coincidence that I have been doing GREAT for a few weeks. Duh, she bought a ring, seemed to stop seeing OM and the picture was all good. DB was EASY then. NOW, that suspicions are creeping back in, I have to REALLY be the good little DB man some people think I am.
I will consider all of this. I still think my goals in this are not controlling so much as they are centered around the idea that I already know what I THINK the status is of our R based on the ring, etc and ANYTHING she says or doesn't say will either confirm that or let me know what she is thinking. I just don't want to proceed based on mind reading. IF she is still confused, with OM, whatever, then I know FULL DB should be in effect. If she says she is trying but still having trouble for some reason, and wants me to try too, then I know the rules (not that I think there are any) have changed and I should step up the romance. I DON'T have a plan for whatever she says. I frankly have not given it that much thought. I have been too busy thinking what one question I want to ask, and how to ask it.
I guess I just want answers and I know I may not get them, even after all that...I know...I know...I know.
