Ok, Mama and Rob, I left some things out of my last post and I will also respond to you both.
The whole reason I brought up the "friend" W is going out with is that since W can't drive, this friend will have to pick W up at our house. That's why I am trying to figure out what this GF is all about. I suppose like everything else, it doesn't matter because I am back to being fixated on the A and OM and all the things I cannot control.
Quote: I guess the thing is, what exactly is it that you hope to achieve here? I think its okay to at least ask the question in a direct way, but recognize that you may not get the answers that you want or need.
Even as recently as last night I would NOT have been ok with answers I didn't like. Today, I feel like I want to ask the question in a completely open, non-leading way and see what she does. I am looking for an answer that will clue me in to what the next step is, if any for me. I fully realize that she will likely give me more "I don't know"'s and "I am not sure what I want". The reason I think I am ready to hear that (not that I want to mind you) is that I am perceiving her actions as being those of some one working back towards a relationship with me. If she cannot even SAY that is what she is doing, then I am probably wrong about that. IF she says she is still confused, then I will probably ask her what wearing the ring means to her.
Of course, she COULD decide that now as good as any to tell me the REAL truth and drop more bombs. I can't say I am ready for that, but I am as ready as I will ever be if only because I think this sitch needs a nudge in one direction or another.
Quote: Typically when something like this comes up, I have too much of a tendency to jump in with both feet as well. Sadly, it never ends well and only creates more friction.
Rob, I agree 100% which is why I STILL am not sure I want to go through with this. What I am sure of is that this emotional brinkmanship is getting old. I get right to where I am ready to talk to her and then back down, pulling all my thoughts and feelings back in. I think that process is poisoning me and is the cause of my recent problems. I either need to talk or not and if I decide not to, it has to be for a really good, easily remembered reason so I don't keep THINKING about talking all the time.
