That's pretty much how I feel, too. Not knowing WHAT to say...and not knowing HOW to say it without sounding well...without sounding like any number of adjectives that I can think of...controlling, needy, condescending..so many more I can think of. I want to be able to do it in a way that's open, honest, caring, constructive, and will lead SO to be the same. The thought that I'll completely screw up any TALK stops me in my tracks every time.
I honestly have to wonder if either one of us needs to have this talk yet. I know we're both in completely different places - you seem to be some steps further than me, but what is our "motivation" behind having one of thee talks? Just set our own minds at ease? Why do we need to that? Maybe that's what we should really be thinking about....especially since we both *think" our respective P's will open up when they are ready. I think constantly dwelling on a potential "talk" is somehow stagnating things. DR says not to bring up R talk....our own fear of the "status quo" is what's driving us to have the talk, right?
On a sidenote, I saw in your other post about your library...a suggestion...my library has an "inter-library" loan policy - I can actually search for a book and if one of the other participating libraries has it, they ship it to mine - does yours have anything like that? I can also search online, in the privacy of my own home (great for someone that only checks out self-help books, lol)...I can tell you this has saved me tons of money from potentially buying books that I ended up hating...
