Entering Limboland...GH Saga Part 8

[RBinBR]

mixing and matching theories with GREAT success. You are probably one of those able to do that.

Now that it again appears that I may have the success that I have been so eagerly awaiting, let me say that I never intentionally did anything that was not DB. Kicking my W out doesn't count because I did that before I read DR or anything else for that matter and I had no plan at that point. (The experiment offer wasn't DB, but it wasn't accepted, so it isn't really a part of what actually occurred.) What worked was spending several weeks focusing on GAL, getting past my anger, recognizing and addressing my contributions to our marital difficulties ... and then focusing on being there for her while giving her space and never contacting her, meeting her emotional needs when she contacted me, acting "as if" (even through staying a night in their love nest), and letting her know that I cared in ways that didn't pressure her at all so that she could see the changes in my life.