Thanks for stopping by my thread. Despite some obvious troubles in your sitch, things seem better for you than they have for me at any time in the last 9 months since finding out about the OM.
DBing was working for me, however, I just don't think it could overcome some of the fundamentals, such as OM's appeal (which has begun to wane and I believe will continue to do so), and my perceived deficiencies, namely, I am not that same guy who was all obsessed with with my W in the first 6 months of our courtship as I was in the following 13 years.
Anyway, I agree that DBing is the more genteel of the divorce killing methods, and it seemed most suited to our sitch. I think it still has a chance for us - much more than kicking W to the curb, which I think in my case would put a nail in it....
Hang in there - that your wife is affectionate to you is a good thing. Something that ceased for me shortly before her EA became a PA....
Thanks again for the advice and the encouragement in a time when I needed it....
