Entering Limboland...GH Saga Part 8

[Tim297181]

Hello???!!........is the place I used to visit all the time?
I am not sure?

Hey GH
Just had a chance to read your posts! You are doing awesome my man! You told me once not to long ago how far I had come since we first started talking on this board.....and you have travelled a long way on this journey also! Be proud of the person you are and who you are becoming!

So what are my comments now that I am a little more caught up?
Stay the course. I agree with OT that you need to be more direct and let your W know exactly how YOU are feeling. Don't leave anything up to debate in her mind about you. Be assertive but not over powering. I know that has worked very well for me. I no longer keep my feelings bottled up. i think about what I am going to say before I say it to my W, but I am clear on how I feel.
Like you I want more intamicy with my W. I told her exactly that, and that I want her make love to me and develop the passion again. She agreed that is what she wants and to let it happen slowly. So what is happening is the kisses are getting longer, the hugs are tighter, the naked encounters are increasing, and we are letting it build!
You and I are in different sitch right now. I am trying to recouncil a second time. I see a definite end to my sitch. It will work and we will have a better marriage than I ever imagined because my W and I both want it, or the BIG D! I am Ok with both. I am evaluating our progress daily. We are moving away from the big D, but I still am evaluating whether my W is ready to being a loving and commited marriage.

The one thing for you GH is your W sees all the positive changes you have made! She sees the man she knows she wants to be married to! She just can't open up and admitt to it because of what she has done. You have to be able to foregive her and that takes time, and an open heart. She has to do the same, but for herself nad what she has done. That takes time!
My W is still working on that! She is feeling the pain of all the bad things she has done to me and the kids over the last year. Foregiving herself has to happen before we can move forward. Each day it gets better.
Your W may not verbalize itike my W, and just slip back into your marriage. Just keep up your growth and the changes you are making personally to keep her on her toes, and excited to be with you!