Yes, GH, you are in limbo. Just KNOWING that you don't want your M to go back to the way it was, that's the first step in allowing it to grow, change, and improve over the long term. Look at it that way. Sure, maybe right now you're not at the exact place you'd like to be, but you are moving ahead....with your W, BTW.
You have the intelligence to know that R's are ever-changing. And, by finding and integrating DB'ing into your life, you now have a very useful tool to help you along the way. What is today will not be tomorrow, or next year, or 10 years from now. As long as you are willing to keep growing, changing, and ALWAYS be open to doing 180's for the rest of your life (!!!!) your M will never go back to the comfortable rut that led you to this journey.
There's a part in DR that goes over how YOU feel when WA starts coming back.....Pulling It Together, then there's a part in the Infidelity section (page 218 - I just went & looked it up! LOL) that deals with the emotions YOU are feeling - maybe you should re-read over those - it may help you.
