-- seems like you were pretty direct... -- your response is maybe a little short or sarcastic... she may have been still thinking about how to answer... A better response might have been, "I don't want to put you on the spot and I feel like I have. This is something I think we really need to talk about at some point as we heal our R, but it doesn't have to be right now..." -- quit over thinking it, you did fine... your M does not hinge on something like this...
OT, you know what I like most about you? You always say the right thing at the right time. You don't always say what I want to hear, but it's almost always spot on. Thank you.
I know I did fine. I guess I wanted to feel like I opened the door but since she didn't walk through, I can still take solace in the fact that it should be open now if she decides to use it. I am not too sure if or when we will talk but I am now content to go back to living my life. I am happy with that decision.
As for my sarcasm, yea, it was and I regret THAT part of the conversation. I really like what you said better but what is done is done.
The most important thing you said to me here was the part about marriages not hinging on something like this. I think I get SO focused on this stuff, and over-think it, that each little aspect of what happens takes on enormous importance. It seems like I have been thinking WAY too much and living too little. My original self/therapist's mental diagnosis was that I was controlling and over thought everything to the point where I was not ever living my life in the "present". I did GREAT for awhile in changing that but I have slipped back to my old ways a bit. That stops today!
I want to live my life without the burden of all the extra crap I put on myself. Easier said than done, but I can do it. I am going to try some meditation techniques tonight and see where it leads me.
