That didn't go so well after all. Dunno if impatience got to me or whether it was the right time but I approached W with a R talk...it went nowhere...literally. She was talking to her sister on the phone and talking about all these "future" things that would include me. She was happy and it seemed as good a time as any to lightly bring up the topic. So, after she got off the phone, she called up to me to talk to me about her convo with her sis. I listened and afterwards I simply asked...
M: So, how are YOU? W: Fine. M: No, I mean in general, how are things? W: Good I guess. M: How are WE? I feel like things are better lately. W: (silence) M: Ok, so should I take that as an answer? W: I guess. What do you want to hear? M: Nothing I guess.
That was it. Wow. I have NO idea what that means. Sure, I didn't approach it head on, but I did ask a question that has an answer one way or another. IF things are getting better, why not just say "I agree, they are better." Or, if not, just be honest. I suppose I dropped the ball, and maybe OT will slap me for it. I should have just asked specific questions if I wanted specific answers. This was my way of breaking the ice and getting the general temperature of things. From there I was going to ask my direct questions. I still could but that was VERY awkward to be sure. I am not really sure what's going on and as usual, I am just going to let it ride. I learned another lesson tonight, one OT is trying to teach me. DIRECT is the ONLY way to approach these things. Ask a vague question and get...well...silence. And the beat goes on...
