Quote: They want to see the WAS suffer, feel the pain that they did. I feel for them, I can understand their pain... but at some point, hey it just didn't work out, but if you pull yourself together you might find someone that will love you for who you are
I never felt this way, and I think those that do are in denial of their role in things. If you are so perfect, and of course, I don't mean YOU Lisa, then what THEY (WAS) did was born out of pure evil and you don't want to be with them anyway, do you? It's the fact that we DO contribute to the demise of our situations, and our realization of that, that gives us the most hope for the future, either with our WAS, or without. If we can't move past what was "done" to us, and start focusing on what WE can do to ourselves, then I think we get nowhere, and will fail in this effort of saving our marriages. Look, I feel the rage, pain, unfairness in all this. I really do. Sometimes it is overwhelming but it's those times when you really have to step back and realize that you are NOT what you're feeling right now, and the sitch is usually NOT what you think it is right now. I just hope through this process to gain wisdom and insight about me AND how I communicate with the world. Beyond that, I have no control...
