I wish I had something useful to offer, but unfortunately I don't at the moment as my situation is very similar to yours. A lot of the things that you described sound extremely familiar. The only real difference is that my wife hasn't come right out and said that she has absolutely no interest in sex, but she might has well have as she acts very much like your wife. I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone and that the two of us should probably keep an eye on each other's threads due to the similarity of our situations.
