I've said as much to my H. And his answer was no about the fantasies
Do you believe this?
I have no words of wisdom just throwing some empathy your way, for you and your W.
What could GS wife do to stop this ridiculous dance? What actions by her do you see as being destructive to his efforts?
We want it the way we want it and if it feels "off" we can lose desire, even HD's.
Hate to break it to you, but your not HD. Wanting what you want isnt very self aware, or useful. Knowing how you want it and being able to express it clearly to your H would be a good first step in honest communication. The comment 'take me like a man'
1 your H is a man, therefore the way he does it is how a man does it. 2. implies that your H isnt the man you want. Is this the message you are trying to send? 3 is very counter to other remarks --like-- respect me, listen to me, I dont want it all the time, and in general reacting negatively to the times when he does hesitantly 'take you'.
Make a decision. Be responsible for your own feelings.
