yes, somethings I think that even though I am more sexual than she - and I tell myself that I would be doing A and B if I was with someone more my speed... at the same time, I think a lot of this IS ME. I think that I am afraid to step out of the closet so to speak and say "I like doing this or that" because I'm terrified that she will say "ick" or "that's weird" and then I will feel like some pervert or she won't love me the same or something like that.
And the weird part is that from what I've read on the internet my sex drive is pretty normal - I don't have fantasy that make you say "are you seeing a shrink" - they're more like "oh yeah, my wife and I did that last week..." so, I don't know why I am so afraid to open up - and yes, it is much easier to point the finger at her and say because of how SHE treated me...
also, sorry it took me so long to get back in here and post - I am swamped right now at work.
The main thing I'm trying to figure out is where the line is that crosses from "communicating about sex" and "telling you what to do" - since it's obvious we do not communicate and a lot of that stems from my wife's dislike for "telling me how to make love to her"
