Quote: she did say that she was a jerk for holding us so long and I did say that we could have made more time for her to share.
Wow, that was really good.
Geek, correct me if I'm wrong, but something in the tone of your posts reminds me of me in the following way: there is a part of me that just wants to prove my bf WRONG. Part of me always seems to have an "open case" where I'm collecting evidence against him, as in, "see, there he goes again, I KNEW he didn't really care," or "he does THAT to me, but if I ever did THAT to him, he'd blow a fuse!" Does that sound like you?
I'm not saying she does or doesn't do the stuff you've mentioned, but it seems to me that you are collecting evidence against her-- for what purpose? To have a reason to be distant? To have a reason to leave her? Or just for the satisfaction of proving her demanding, wrong, a hypocrite?
Believe me, all of what I've just written could apply to me, too. I feel like that when I first met my bf, my heart was totally open, and one little thing after another just pushed it more and more closed... and now I do go around ranting in my head about how he's this and he's that.
Having said all that, I don't know what to do with my attitude. It's true, just as I'm sure it's true with your W, that she corrects stuff that you do that she does all the time. You seem to have a chip on your shoulder-- justified or not, and it probably IS justified-- and it's so hard to make progress toward intimacy when that chip keeps getting in the way. I'm kind of stuck here, too.
