always_14, could we be separated at birth? this is exactly who i was in my marriage before bombs dropped/A discovered. the process you described was right on. i've been gleaning insight from everyone else's lives and have yet to post my own sitch b/c it feels like it would take forever and a day to write it out. but i'll get to it. just wanted to thank you for your insight, and making me feel better!
Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Is 43:18-19
If it seems slow in coming, wait. It's on its way. It will come right on time. Hab 2:3
