PL, let me expand on the honesty issue a little. I think it's impossible for most of our WAS's to be honest because their very lives are dishonest at this point. They are betraying us in the most fundamental way possible and breaking their marriage vows to be faithful to us. All of their actions are proving that their word is meaningless.
As such, I don't think you see many honest cheaters. I think expecting your H to be honest while conducting his A is unrealistic and unlikely.
The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth." (Psalm 145:18)
