To be honest, GH, I wrote a post to answer you, but it is simply to harsh to post. To tone it down a lot, I think PL is in extreme denial about her H's pretty complete emotional D from her, and that she is locked into very ego-centric, self-destructive, controlling behavior. She needs to quit playing the victim AND quit playing puppet master AND quit generating situations in which she gets to play tragic drama queen. She needs to own her happiness and become responsible for her own financial and emotional health.
