Quote: o that was a real issue in our communication, only made harder because I was an English major in college, and love the intricacies of language and often rely heavily on people's word and revel in the tiny nuances of that.
Have you read Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus? If not, it really helped me understand a lot of my communication issues. I am just like you. I am a writer and I value spoken/written language very much, while my W has little use for extensive dialog or the nuances of language. There is no language barrier (other than she speaks better than I do...lol...gotta love those Brits) but we just speak differently and often I find myself doing the very same thing. I make stuff up based on things she really didn't even say, and worse than that, I would then LIVE in the world as it existed in my head, as if everything I made up was real. It is part of a control issue where I used to make up scenarios about how things should go and if they didn't I would get frustrated, upset, whatever. In this case, I would convince myself that I understood what my W said, and really I don't think I ever listened well enough to have understood.
Now, I do better with not reading into things so much but it's hard. Like I said, the book helped me. If you have read it, maybe skim back over it again...
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P.S. Thank you so much for the kind words. I'm glad I can help. Oh, and I DID just get my Angel card in the mail. Who knew you got to buy underwear AND get a halo...lol.
